Tips on choosing buddy
Having an accountability buddy is one of the best ways to make sure you're persisting with your personal growth practice.
But who's the ideal accountability buddy for you? Below you can find a couple of our best advice choosing
A buddy could be:
1) a friend
2) a family member
3) a spouse or a partner
4) anyone else you trust - say, someone you work or study with and have a good connection with.
Why is a mutual trustful relationship important for a buddy? Your buddy is not only holding you responsible for working on something personal, they can also see what you want to change in your life, and should give you advice and feedback on personal matters.
This requires you to trust their intentions - this should be someone that you feel has only advice for your own good, and cares about you.
You can try to pick a buddy who's not as close to you, but has a similar problem to yours. However, people who are close to will be more committed to help you, and the fact that you meet these people often helps persisting.
Buddys can be extremley helpful just by providing you with the most minimal reminders to practice your plans. But there are many instances which makes a buddy more likely to provide you with more value:
• If your buddy would also like to self-develop using VIVID, it's more likely that they'll know how to give you advice and they'll persist doing that. It will also make your conversations on this topic two-sided.
• If your buddy has good intuitions about self-improvement or about psychology, they'd be a great fit for giving your valuable advice.
• If your buddy encountered a similar problem before, they're more likely to know how to help you.
Buddies will recieve occasional notifications that would remind them to enter the app and ask you questions about your personal plans. They don't have to think about the questions themselves - they will have premade questions to help them assist you.
What is required of your buddy is caring enough to ask you on the subject when you meet each other, and occasionally use the app's help to support you.
If your buddy wants to help you even more, they can give you concrete suggestions for making improvements to your plans.
You can also provide them with edit persmissions to your plan, to make it easier for them to help you shape your plans. The choice to use this feature, and to turn it off at any time, is entirely yours.
There are many very good and legitimate reasons to decline a buddy request. From time-related concerns, to insecurities about being actually willing to help or being the best person to help, to fears of dissapointing your buddy - and so on. It's important to accept that every person has different views on these matters, and to respect else's will to decline a buddy request.
As mentioned above - there are many other options for people who can be an accountability buddy, and they don't have to be the closest person.